Understanding
Your Teenager
The
years between childhood, adolescence and maturity
involves rapid change. Growing up is a normal process
- all that makes it difficult is the interaction
of the child with those around him or her. Given
below are a few common problems a parent would face.
Being aware of the problems and understanding the
fact that these behavioural traits are normal in
the growing up process, helps parents to deal with
them. And, finally remember one thing, that every
child and every family is different.
Teenage Behaviour
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The teenager is self-conscious and obsessed with
self.
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He / She apes friends and their behaviour.
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Friends are more important than parents.
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Is intolerant and quarrelsome with siblings.
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Sees issues from his or her point of view.
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Makes his / her own decisions and starts to think
independently.
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Experiments with different clothes, tests boundaries
and takes risks.
- Questions
parental attitude.
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Debates every issue. Extremely argumentative at
times.
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Neglects school work.
Adolescent Development
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Adolescence is often accompanied by an increase
in autonomy and emotional distance from the parents.
- During
adolescence, peer friendships mean more than the
parents.
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Adolescents are more likely to be open with their
friends, discussing such issues as dating, sexuality,
personal experiences and common interests.
Characteristics
of Adolescent Friendships
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Loyalty is a highly valued aspect of friendship.
- Adolescents
believe that friends should not talk about one
another behind their backs.
- Friends
should 'stick up' for one another.
- Intimacy
is also highly valued. (Adolescents have a need
to share their innermost thoughts and feelings
with a friend.)
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Adolescents also tend to seek out relationships
that are relatively stress-free, safe and comfortable.
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Friends also have similar attitudes on issues
such as dating, partying and religion.
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